1. Which of your stories have you probably told the greatest number of times to the most people?
I often gave John a ride to work early in the morning so I could have the car. That meant being on the road by 5 a.m. As we were on our way, I felt a pain I had never felt before: “That was different,” I said to him as we were rolling down toward the light at Punchbowl and Vineyard in the left turn lane. I dropped John off at The Advertiser. Sophie was in the back secured in her baby seat. I had several labor pains driving home, and through each one I huffed and puffed. Sophie, who was sitting behind me, huffed and puffed along as though it were a great game!. The labor was strong enough that I called my in-laws and asked them to meet me at the house so I could hand Sophie off. I then drove myself back to town, experienced several more labor pains on the way to The Advertiser building, where I gave the driving wheel to John. We then went to Kaiser Moanalua during morning rush hour. I gave birth to Charlotte at 9:30 a.m., two hours earlier than had been expected by the experts who checked the dilation of my cervix. No pain killers, the kid felt like a train coming out of me. I was 100 percent there and aware. Phew.

2. What’s a story someone else often tells about you, much to your chagrin?
When I was in kindergarten, Sister Mary Lambert, a Franciscan nun from Hawaii, took me to the front of the class because I was talking out of turn. She had me turn around, lifted up my dress so the entire class could see my yellow-flowered Carters underwear, and whacked me with the paddle. I was mortified. I went back to my table of five other classmates and put my head down for the rest of the day. I couldn’t look at anyone. It was so embarrassing. Thus began my career as a Catholic school girl who was always getting caught and nabbed by nuns who were willing to beat me. Why does anyone need to tell that story besides me?

3. What oft-told story from a chapter in your life seems to be remembered differently by different people who were there?
I could never dive off the 3-meter board at the swim club our family belonged to when I was a kid. One summer I stood up on that board for 45 minutes, petrified. The entire pool emptied and everyone stopped what they were doing, eyes on me. I couldn’t even be willed to drop into the diving well head first. Other versions indicate I was up there for hours; some people say I was crying; some say I was shaking up there. I know I still couldn’t do it.

4. What are some of the details, without retelling the whole story, of a story you’ve told often but never to your parents?
I don’t really have anything like that!

5. What song would be an appropriate soundtrack to the story of your most embarrassing moment?
Bad Company’s Feel Like Making Love. I felt like the kitty trying to get away from Pepe LePew. I knew it was the wrong place, the wrong time, the wrong guy. I got away.

Thanks for participating, and have a happily-ever-after weekend!

Thanks to my husband I’ve become a bicycling enthusiast. I now mirror his admiration of Lance Armstrong and his addiction to the annual Tour de France. He commutes on his bicycle from work evenings and still recalls fondly his banana-seat Schwinn Stingray from which he delivered newspapers in Hawaii Kai.

A few months ago my husband John decided he wanted to ride in the Honolulu Century Ride, with me. All 100 miles of it. Just as he did when he wanted us to start a family, he had to present his case to win me over. It wasn’t that hard of a sell. Years ago I had commuted on my bicycle to University of Hawaii Manoa from our downtown condo, and I got pretty confident about urban bicycling.

Recently, he had built me a bike. It collected dust. I’d reluctantly get on it once in a while to do my time, but I thought it was so boring. I would rather rise at 330 a.m. to work out on the elliptical at 24 Hour Fitness Hawaii Kai than ride a bike on a trainer at the end of the day. I was too tired.

To be sure I’d be ready for the century, he encouraged me to join a group. So far, I’ve been on three group rides. Two were from the Kahala area to Hawaii Kai. I haven’t ridden with the same person twice, I’ve gotten to ride with some interesting people, but there isn’t much talking going on. Sometimes I’m faster than others, sometimes I’m slower. It’s all about the training, getting used to sharing the road with whizzing vehicles, dodging road debris, gutters and bumps, staying alert. It’s also about courtesy and acknowledging the goodwill of those wrapped in a few tons of steel. There can never be too many gracious drivers on the road. A mahalo and a shaka can take you quite a few miles.

This past Saturday, August 1st, it was a very different ride for me. We biked from Kunia to Kolekole Pass on the Army military base Schofield Barracks. About a dozen of us parked at the Kiss and Ride in Waipahu and, after a briefing from Hawaii Bicycling League enthusiast Patricia Johnson, we were single file on Kunia Road by 715 a.m. My husband and I were in a slow group and I was itching to do a breakaway. I had no idea what I was in for so I decided to let the others set the pace, conserve my energy, and overlook my frustration of riding slow. Besides, I wasn’t familiar with Kunia Road at all, and the 45mph speed limit meant cars and trucks were probably doing 60mph.

Once we got in the gate at Schofield Barracks, it was like being in another world. The road was calm, very little traffic, and we were able to relax and go as fast or as slow as we wanted. The military has its act together. I served in the USAF and a military existence is a parallel world. For a civilian on a military base, it can be an amazing eye-opening experience. There is no litter. There are no dogs running around. There is no broken glass on the road. Military uniformity includes not only one’s gig line, but the well-manicured environment of an installation.

We didn’t worry about getting a flat tire on base! According to Bobby, who was dressed in TDF yellow down to the lions on his socks, his GPS told of the inclines we encountered during our climb up Kolekole Pass. He said we rode up inclines of up to 12-13 percent!

I watched as my husband, Charley and Rick pedaled into the distance ahead of me. I even took their picture with my iPhone. I wanted to see if I could shoot a picture without dropping my iPhone, without falling on my right knee, my favorite place to land. The scenery was gorgeous and the eucalyptus trees cleared our sinuses with their minty fragrance.

As I was heaving up the hill, alone, having fallen behind the three guys but ahead of the rest, I was slowly passed by a military police car. I was worried he was worried about me! Then John came rolling back down. He said he thought I was right with them. I don’t know if he heard me scoff or what! He then said some encouraging words: “See that light there? That’s it. That’s the top.” We got there sooner than I had thought!

My heart rate climbed to 171 as I climbed those last several hundred feet, but we were there sooner than I had expected, and that is always a stress reducer! When it was time to go, John and I flew down the pass on a virtually deserted road, no cares about broken glass or fast vehicles or wild dogs.

It was a total wheeeeeee.

The ride back — out the gate to Kunia Road, south to the Kunia Wal-Mart, was as hairy going as it was coming. This time John and I were in the front with Rick, drafting behind him. It was amazing. The road was bumpy and I did get stuck in a concrete gutter for a bit, but we were able to maintain a good speed. I didn’t fall during the entire 28-mile ride.

I absolutely love riding my bicycle now. I look forward to those weekend group rides, getting comfortable riding on someone’s wheel, in traffic, on roads that more often than not are loaded with debris where the bicyclists ride. I like the sound of my shoes connecting with my pedals, the sound of gears shifting as our peloton straddles Heartbreak Hill. And I love the thought of alert, considerate drivers sharing the road with us.

This article originally ran on HMSA’s Island Scene website. I am employed as a writer by Hawaii Medical Service Association. It’s a great place to work. (Yes. I drink the Kool-Ade, LOL!)

On Mother’s Day 2003, my husband gave me a 9-foot-2-inch surfboard. Bright and shiny with red hibiscus on the deck, that surfboard means so much to me. It marks a return to the sport I loved after taking time off for pregnancies.

Now that my girls are 9- and 8-years old, I’ve been able to go surfing more, but not nearly as much as I did when I was younger and single. My husband encourages me to get out in the lineup as much as possible because he knows it results in a happy wife. You should see me after a good surf session.

I began surfing in 1981, when I first came to Hawai‘i and was stationed at Hickam Air Force Base. When it was time to re-enlist, I opted for civilian life in Hawai‘i. It wasn’t always easy, but I usually managed to make time for a daily surfing session. Once you have a board, the sport is generally expense-free.

This Mother’s Day, my husband treated me to a two-hour stand-up paddle (SUP) lesson just to see if I would enjoy it as much as surfing. He didn’t want me to invest in a board and paddle unless I was certain that I’d use them.

My desire to take up stand-up paddle boarding was piqued by two things: It looks easy and is touted as an intense core workout. It seems counterintuitive that something so demanding can only succeed if the participant is relaxed. The boards are built for stability with wide decks and angled bottom rails that keep the board upright no matter how wobbly the paddler or how bumpy the waves or boat wakes. The padded deck works like wax on a surfboard, giving something to dig one’s toes into while slicing the water with the long-necked paddle. Some paddles are custom designed, but adjustable paddles can be lengthened or shortened as desired.

I used to surf all over O‘ahu and a few places on Kaua‘i. Now that I live in Hawai‘i Kai, I surf in Maunalua Bay, usually dawn patrol on glassy weekends. I surf with friends who have told me not to bring my SUP out to the lineup. Typically territorial, typically resistant to something new, those guys don’t need to worry. My goal isn’t necessarily to surf waves with my paddleboard. I do it to stay healthy and fit, enjoy the water, and paddle a few laps in the bay, with the added bonus of spotting sea turtles or monk seals popping their head above water.

Even if I were to take the paddleboard into the lineup, I told the guys that they had nothing to worry about. I might have an advantage standing up and facing the swell with paddle in hand. But I still have that good surfer-girl etiquette.

We say aloha on our last wave of the day to let friends know we’re going in. But every wave should be an aloha wave. It keeps the session light-hearted and fun. If you’re not having fun while surfing, then you shouldn’t be surfing.

Known for sending to Twitter my morning workout sessions, my Weight Watcher Weigh-In Wednesdays reports and the occasional confessional regarding eating bad stuff, I have made quite a few friends on Twitter among those serious about their battles of the bulge.

Motivated to inspire, I feed off the responses I get to my tweets regarding my workouts and the photos of my healthy food choices and creations. My early morning workouts impress many, but honestly the reason I work out when I do is because my husband works evenings and I cannot leave the house for a couple of hours leaving my 7- and 9-year-old girls on their own. So 330am wake-up times and 4am workouts it is. That’s my life.

Last week two motivated and very cool chicks on Twitter as @FabFatties and here on WordPress called a fatabulous throw down for those of us who want to shake our thangs out of the doldrums. Shannon and Angie of
www.weightlosswiththefabulousfatties.wordpress.com have come public with their fat asses. That is not an insult. That is reality. If you cannot admit you have a fat ass when you do, you will always have a fat ass, I don’t care how many magic pills you take. Be realistic. If you eat half a Texas sheet cake and chase it down with some kind of acai diarrhea maker, you are not addressing core issues you have with food.

What is this void you are filling with food that lets you behave like a bottomless pit? Is food love? Is food friendship? Is food a way to connect with people? If you can say food is not love, food is not friendship, and that you don’t need food to be a friend or to have a friend, then you should be able to assess food for what it is: nutrients for your body.

So what does your body want? In Hawaii we call it eating a rainbow. Fruits and vegetables should be the stars of the meals. Whole grains, lean chicken and fish, low- to non-fat dairy products start tasting better when you treat them like the nutritional gold mines that they are. When I make a salad at work, I get out my cutting board and appreciate that I can slice farm-fresh radishes, grape tomatoes and sweet peppers. Usually I grill supper at home, and put leftover chicken or shrimp on the salad. Not only am I having something wonderful for lunch, but I’ve made it myself and kept my wallet shut.

Dieting is about the food. That’s why I love Weight Watchers. Having done another diet program that mailed food to me, I really felt disappointed in the presentation and flavors. Weight Watchers allows me to create my own meals. I love to cook. I love to prepare healthy foods for my family. I love it when my twitpics get me attagirl tweets online.

For the record, I’m down 22 pounds since October 2008. I want to get down another 18 pounds to make BMI by October 2009. For the last month I struggled with one particular pound. That bastard of a pound dogged me for weeks, gone a day back the next. Well, I’ve shaken it. And if my WW scale from Costco is accurate, I’m down nearly another two pounds from Weigh-In Wednesday.

The @FabFatties’ challenge is inspiring because it requires participants to do several things each day for two weeks. Drinking water, counting points, exercising, the usual stuff. But also we are asked to recommend other tweets worthy of following. We’re to visit participants’ blogs and comment on them. We are to try and recruit someone to participate.

I already know I’m not going to win. I don’t get on and answer questions at the FabFatties’ site. I won’t recruit anyone. But I will be a virtual cheerleader on the sidelines.

Love you gals, Angie & Shannon. And I also am crazy about another gal who is also quite a motivator to me: http://foodfoodbodybody.wordpress.com/ I’m waiting for her to tell me her first name so I can post it. I don’t think her name is Foodie McBody! She sent me this super cool charm of a knife and fork with a laptop. It’s on my WW charm key chain.

UPDATE: HER NAME IS SUSAN! And she’s been to Hawaii several times!

Love to all you struggling and to all of you who support us! Keep up the good work, get up and shake that thang! Exercise is the BEST way to begin the day!

I wish I could load up this blog more often. I love to reflect on so much. Last night as I drifted off to sleep, I thought of an idea for a children’s book that included birds, feathers and finance. I should pursue that. Suze Orman would be proud. I really should pursue my personal writing more often. It’s like a bottle of bubbly with an uncaged cork. I need to control its release or it will explode, evaporate and leave a sticky film all over my life. I’d only regret that. Better to pour.

I do a lot. I wake up at 3:30 a.m. Monday through Friday to workout at 24 Hour Fitness Hawaii Kai. I get home from the gym at 5 a.m. and get ready for work, hoofing it down to theBus stop by 5:45 to catch the express #80 into town. I connect to the first bus going back toward my offices on Keeaumoku Street and get there by 6:45.

At work I have my tea and my breakfast, four hours after I wake up. I then write, edit, update web pages, meet with people in other departments to plan on creating communications materials, layout and design a monthly newsletter, and offer moral support to my boss and colleagues. I am a cheerleader for my company and my department.

After work I drive home because my husband leaves the van near my office. He rides his bicycle home when he gets off work later in the evening. I pick the girls up at the after-school program and bring them home or to swim team practice. Once home, I start dinner, maybe do a load of laundry, go through planners, review homework, sign permission slips and write checks for field trips, lunch money accounts, feed the girls, wash the dishes, straighten the house up, take out the trash and recyclables, and set up for the next day. That includes setting out an outfit to workout in, an outfit for work, packing breakfast and lunch, getting everything into my purse, including my wallet, my bus pass wallet, my iphone, my cellular phone, my sunglasses, my reading glasses, my work badge, my Weight Watchers food journal, and everything else I cannot get through a day without.
For some reason, it is hard to get to bed before 10 p.m. on a week night. I keep wondering how I can be more efficient.

Thank goodness weekends are a bit more relaxed, but no less busy. We run errands, go to piano lessons, workout for longer sessions at 24 Hour Fitness, and try to squeeze in some fun like riding bicycles or going to the beach. Three or four times a month I like to go surfing or do a beach excursion. Immersing myself in the ocean is my psychotherapy. Coming face to face with a sea turtle or a sea lion, paddling through a cloud of moon jelly fish, stepping over the reef and seeing an octopus side wind its way out of my path, give me a chance to think about the world’s wonders.

Right now a happy cardinal is king of the avocado tree in the backyard. The cats are comatose on the tall coral walls, dangerously close to rolling off. Kid1 has her nose in a book, Kid2 is stealthily searching for lizards and other small creatures in our garden. It’s Sunday afternoon, life is as slow as it will get for us.

Thought I’d take a minute to write about it.

I just reached a milestone with my Weight Watchers group, and have lost 19.6 pounds in the five months since I first joined at the WW at Work program, generously cosponsored by my employer, Hawaii Medical Service Association, HMSA.

I have tried WW Online, have the application on my iPhone, but, it’s not the same as seeing colleagues at work sharing the struggle, fighting the good fight, logging in the hours at the company fitness center. I kind of have a handle on the way WW calculate points, but for that I have yet another iPhone application, PointCalcLite. Enter the calories, the fat, the fiber per serving and out comes the points. Great for grocery shopping, budgeting the day’s intake. It keeps a daily tally. I’ve recommended it already to some of my fellow points counters, but it isn’t officially sanctioned by the WW organization.

It actually took me three weeks to finally weigh in minus 1.2 stubborn pounds to make my goal. I got my 16-week charm for perseverance at 16 weeks, of course. I asked where I should put it and the counselor said to me, “On your WW key chain, which you get when you reach your first goal.” Nothing snarky about her comment. Absolutely no maliciousness. I was having quite a battle. When I finally got that charm I sent out a Twitter and made a Facebook entry that indicated I was “Doin’ the Snoopy Dance, under the disco ball, playing the air guitar” all at once. I was THAT HAPPY. I AM THAT HAPPY.

This past weekend, I bought a pair of Calvin Klein jeans, size 10, as a target. Since I was at Costco, I couldn’t try them on in the store. I had to make that $19 purchase on faith, knowing that I could bring them back if I wanted, if they never fit over the next 90 days before the return cycle ended. I took them home, I stepped into them, and I showed my husband. Thumbs up.

After five months on Weight Watchers, the size-10 Calvin Klein jeans fit!

The HealthPass program at work, for which employees can volunteer to participate, has set my ultimate goal at another 15 pounds less than what I weigh now. The hardest thing about my being in a pair of size 10 jeans is that I’m happy about it. I feel like I’ve accomplished a worthy goal, that I look good, and that the six-day-a-week routine I have going to 24 Hour Fitness in Hawaii Kai is working for me. It’s part of my life. If I don’t workout, I get all futless and cranky. John set my bicycle up on a trainer at home for my one day off from the gym, just so I can get that endorphin rush from a pumpin’ workout.

Here’s what I’m thinking: I really do need to see if I can make this goal of another 15 pounds. My deadline is October. I get $100 if I make it. I got $100 for signing up and making the commitment. It’s six months away. Can I do it?

Enthusiasm for the Weight Watchers at Work program is waning. We only have five people interested in signing up for the meetings that begin April 15. If we don’t get enough interested, I will try to find one in my neighborhood that I can attend so I can continue on my quest. If I make goal, and I stay within two pounds of that goal, I get a free life-time membership. I’ll only have to weigh in once a month at that time, but I would love to continue to attend the meetings, especially at work.

My past is punctuated by several weight-loss battles. I’ve done so many different things. But I’ve learned that Weight Watchers, being conscientious about journaling food intake, and waking up at 3:30 in the morning to exercise at the butt-crack-of-dawn works for me.

I had to make a commitment to myself about not only wanting to not be a fat old lady, but to be the fit and trim wife and mom who is a perfect match to her husband and kids. I don’t see the point in letting my health deteriorate because I am in denial about letting food control my life. It really is possible to say no to the salivary glands, to push the second helping away, to say yes to you and no to another half-dozen notches on the belt.

It becomes more about you and less about the food.

Ever since we moved into our Hawaii Kai, Oahu, home eight years ago, I have been hanging laundry on our seven clotheslines that are in the garage. Exposed to the elements, with just a little bit of cover overhead, my laundry benefits from the germ-killing sunshine and sometimes for an extra rinse cycle thanks to the trade wind showers. Sheets dry on a breezy, sunny day in about an hour. Denim can hang over night. Aloha shirts and blouses hang on hangers. I probably have more than 250 clothespins and have come close to using them all. Sometimes I have to wait until a nosy carpenter bee is through inspecting my clothespin stash before I can finish.

My grandmother’s philosophy was to hang laundry on the line the way it is worn on a body. Shirts hung from the shoulders, pants from the waist. Therefore, the drape and wear on the person isn’t contradicted by the drape and wear on the line.

Besides the economics, one advantage to using a clothesline over a dryer is that you can leave it up until you have time to take it down. A lot of times I hang or take down my laundry last thing at night or first thing in the morning. It’s dark, the stars are sparkling, and I look at the constellations, planes and satellites as I reach up. Doing the laundry is cathartic for me. It’s a nice quiet time, whether I’m folding and stacking or hanging pants with pants, T-shirts with T-shirts, underwear and bandanas each from their own clothes pin. It’s a quiet me time when I get to think about things.

My lines are too tall for my girls who are now 9 and 7 years old. Eventually, I’ll give up my laundry duties to them so they learn one of life’s basic chores and so they’re never stuck without clean underwear. Besides, it’s time they learned to clean the bathroom!

I joined “Twitter,” sometimes referred to as the Twitterati, specifically Twitterlulu, in November 2008. So far, I’ve managed to tweet more than 6,300 times with insightful messages of 140 characters or less in four months. My last four tweets are evident on the lower right side of this page.

I was turned on to Twitter by my colleague @LaurieCicotello, who invited me to follow her and pointed out a few other folks at work who were on Twitter. All followed back. I was very active in HawaiiThreads for a long time and found out that several of them tweeted as well, so there I got some more followers. I follwed them back. A tweeter or tweep can look for other tweeters or tweeps and see who they are following, and choose to follow them. Hence, you can be followed by other tweeters without following them back, and you can look at the followers of people you either follow or choose not to, and follow someone on their list. It’s not as complicated as it might seem!

Sometimes profound, often funny, with my tweets I offer contemplative reflection on what my life is feeling like at the moment. Sometimes I’ll retweet “RT” another’s information because I think it’s important, valuable and worth sharing with my followers who might not be following the originator. For instance @ActorsandCrew sends job information to people who might want to be in the entertainment or media industries. I know people who are following me are looking for work, so I hope it helps. I know what that trip is about. It’s no fun to be unemployed.

I have figured out how to use Pikchur and Twitpic to send my photos to the Twitterstream, with Pikchur providing me the added capacity of uploading my photos simultaneously to my BrightKite and Facebook accounts. My first Internet involvement was with my September1999Mommies account, which has dispersed over these last 10 years, but has little by little joined back up on Facebook. Now my tweets are seen on Facebook where I’m also hooking up with people I grew up with and went to school with. Social media is astonishing. So much so that the activity bogs down Twitter and the darling “Fail Whale” image shows up. I like finding “Fail Whale” images IRL, such as this one:

Inevitably, those of us who are tweeters encounter geek tweeps. I do not know what gets geeks excited. They tweet about code, write out weird computer terms like Web 2.0 and discuss widgets and gadgets of their multiple websites as though they were their pets or children. I’ve met a few tweeter geeks and for the most part find them relatively harmless. Some are really cool and handsome, whole packages (Like DH). Some of them are frighteningly socially inept. And some of them are just awww shucks kinda guys who are a little uncomfortable hanging out with tweetchix like me. Not that I’m available, LOL. I like to get to know these guys and see which of my single tweetchix friends might go well with them. I’ve been told by more than one that they are happily single. I remember being happily single until my mid30s! If you want kids, that’s about the time to start cultivating IRL (InRealLife) relationships. Just sayin’!

Speaking of IRL, a few months ago there was a combo event hosted by Manoa Geeks at Straub Hospital in Honolulu (Twitterlulu) that included Twitter enthusiasts, “Tweets,” like me. All of a sudden a meeting of the code crunchers became the hottest social happening in town because it was attended by tweeters! We tweeps got to meet tweet geeks like @rsuenaga, @pineapplejuice, @hawaii, @bytemarks and @KGMB IRL! Tweeters such as @AngelaKeen, @Spldrtngrl, @Cai_Mommy and @Melody joined me as we met other wahine (women) IRL such as @NicLauren, @Tweetpea, @AlohaGadgetGirl, and @SophieLynette. Since then, the Twitterlulu numbers have swelled. My fellow tweeter @Melissa808, who is a free-lance writer and the blogmaiden of UrbanMixPlatehas brought many of us together for lunchtime tweetups that she uses for her restaurant reviews. We had a very successful @Twestival thanks to several organizers such as @HawaiiRealtor, @Vbrown and @Diverdown, whose band Sunset was one of four musical groups to perform at the fundraiser at Ocean 808 in Honolulu.

Edit: Will any of us in Twitterlulu ever get to meet @Babooze? Next time he’s in town, @zztype better let us know!!!

As @Lavagal on Twitter, at the moment I have 552 followers. Some I know IRL, many I don’t. I may never meet @TiffanyPR, a PR goddess in New York City, but I love getting her insightful, insider tweets. I love attending the Manoa Geeks events and other tweetups because they give me a chance to meet more of the people whom I’ve gone back and forth with — in 140 characters or less — over what’s for dinner, who is running for governor, why @LanceArmstrong should respond to the Twitterati like us normal tweeters once in a while and what @MrsKutcher is now reading. I belong to a WeightWatchers twitter group, WWTweets, to log in my weekly weigh in experience. My Tweetdeck has a column set up for Twitterlulu tweets. And I follow an amazing array of high-profile Internet, social and government stars just because they put something out there and I may or may not care.

Either way, Twitter has expanded my personal community, while bringing the world to me through my little EeePc. As a writer, I enjoy the challenge of sending out a profound message in 140 characters or less, laced with a bit of Aloha. It is amazing what comes back.

Finally. Weeks and weekends have gone by since I’ve updated the blog. I’ve had obligations to so many others that I cannot remember when I felt a weekend was my own. I promised myself I’d put up an update.

I’m not alone, I’m not on my own. I’m in the center of my home. Kid1 and Kid2 whirl around me. DH is here and there. We check the yard for avocados. I make a run to the farm for my vegetables. We go to piano lessons. We make a run to Safeway. We check the mail. We release butterflies from our little ranch. We tweet. I play Scrabble online. I listen to the wind blow, the roof flexes and creaks, the furchildren check in, demanding scritches and stinky canned food.

Kid2 & Monarch Butterfly

It’s satisfying to know we are home, in touch with our family and friends through the Internet, knowing all I have to do is keep my eye on the pot of soup on the stove, sip my sparkling wine, and write.

I could use a pedicure. I probably need a haircut. There’s a lot of laundry that needs to be done. It can wait. I’ve slowed life down, I’m finally having some down time. And I didn’t even have to get sick.

I almost feel guilty, indulging myself like this. Actually, I don’t. The stress will return soon enough. Let this moment last.

Kid1 and Kid2, mostly Kid2, are ranchers. They gather crown flower leaves from around the neighborhood that have the added bonus of Monarch butterfly eggs on their undersides. Soon, the tiny caterpillars emerge, too small for my Mama eyes to see, and they eat the milky leaves voraciously. It is their job. At the bottom of the butterfly chamber, which is a cylinder of netting and plastic, lies a compost heap of stems and poop.

A brand new Monarch butterfly clings to a companion's chrysalis.

As we kept adding leaves, we kept getting more eggs and more caterpillars. At the moment, we have nearly 20 chrysalises hanging from the top of the chamber. Today we watched as one wriggled out of its skin to reveal a beautiful jade green shell in which it will change from one creature to another.

What an opportunity! To change who we are — a fat and fuzzy caterpillar hellbent on stuffing one’s face — into a Monarch butterfly, delicate leg threads, inquisitive antennae, slowly flapping our powdery wings that closely resemble a Siberian tiger’s stripes.

When that first Monarch wriggled out of its chrysalis, we stared in awe as it clung to its neighbor, still deep in its sleep. DH offered it his finger and the delicate insect grabbed hold, seemingly aware that he would take it out of the chamber and to someplace safe in the world, in our yard, on our orange tree. It rested there for a few hours.

The first Monarch butterfly rests on the orange tree.

Kid2, our 7-year-old entomologist, has done extensive research on this species and proudly announced that the butterfly was a boy. The girls had named him Mr. Big when he was a fuzzy, fat, furious eater. Now so handsome and free, where will he go, what will he see?